Title: Come As You Are
Author: Emily Nagoski
Genre: Non Fiction, Science, Sexuality, Self Help, Feminism, Psychology, Health, Womens, Adult
Publisher: Simon & Aschuster
Published: March 3, 2015
Page Amount: 335 pages
Blurb From Goodreads: An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy…
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
Why Read: I’m not exactly sure where I found out about this book, but the second I read the summary – I knew I had to read it. Women my age (early 20s), at least as far as I’ve seen, are all confused about their sexuality- whether they’re in their own words under-active or too active. So it only seems perfectly timed that we finally can have a book dedicated to us.
Review: I don’t usually read non-fiction. In this particular case, however, I found myself reading on the train, walking and even when I was on the toilet (TMI, I know). Come as You is one of those “pop culture” science books that is easily readable for us normal people, but carries all of the science that it needs. I think every woman should be reading this book, because it’s really important.
Emily Nagoski has two basic points. 1) Every woman’s sexuality is different (whether that is sex drive, what turns you on, or off) and 2) Context is everything. Why can’t you get it up? You’re probably putting yourself in the wrong sorts of situations. As someone with *basically* no experience, I found these points not only really useful, but also enlightening in a very personal way. Our society tells us that to be sexually active in high school is *slutty* but that come to college, and it’s still *slutty* but more acceptable. Our TV shows show us lonely powerful women who sleep around, and are morally find with it. As a young adult in this world, I’ve tried to conform to the societal morals with little to no success. Before reading this book, I would probably blame it on myself, my upbringing, etc. However, now I know there isn’t anything to blame. My context for sexuality and my own personal sexuality simply doesn’t conform 100% with societal norms, and that’s okay.
So yes, this is a science book – but it’s also a self-help book. It’s a really beautiful look at women in our time period and how society plays a role in how we see ourselves sexually. The topic was also appreciated because it’s difficult to pick up books like this without some sort of caveat. The science aspect of this book, for me, seemed to validate the sexual portion of it until I got far enough into it that no validation was needed. If I want to explore my sexuality, then I can.
It’s written in a beautiful style and it’s very “interactive,” with worksheets to figure out what your context might be, or what turns you on or off. I would recommend for everyone to read this – because it truly had an impact on how I see myself, and I would want everyone to be exposed to this. So go read! Highly Recommended!
Rating: 5/5 Stars